I’ve modded many subreddits, some large ones. I can’t agree with you. As a user you just don’t see a lot of crap that would spoil conversations that are quietly removed behind the scenes. I haven’t liked the ways I’ve been treated on some other subreddits so I get where you are coming from. I’ve been angry about it, but I haven’t resorted to childish name calling. Often the mods in those situations just aren’t willing to communicate. I have no idea what they are like as people. I wouldn’t be surprised if some of them did have unhappy lives. OTOH I have also seen many examples users saying everything with the system is wrong because it was THEIR posting that was policed.