Edit: I don’t understand the downvotes. I downvoted you here, though not your OP. Not all Americans are the same, but we do share a name. Like most people, other people trashing the name of a demographic I belong to doesn’t inspire good feelings in me. I’m not ashamed to be an American, I am ashamed of other Americans who behave like your father’s family. Your relatives sound like the inspiration for the saying “project much?”. I’m sorry you had such a disappointing reunion. I would have left early.