I think many also underestimate how much of the work of raising kids is done alone That is what I have heard from every parent, especially mothers. could mislead one into thinking the world cares and will stop and give you a hand-up whenever you need it. That’s not how life works. Agreed So what’s the value of making this very personal and private aspect of each fertile person’s life a point of general discussion? People aren’t AI algorithms. It isn’t about inputting data and coming to a result. Homosapiens are social animals, like chimpanzees and wolves. Talking to other people helps people make their own decisions. where do actual kids–including those who are here all ready–come into it? They do not. At what point do random strangers on the internet–or anywhere else–have the power to make a person change their mind even? People rarely admit that they were wrong on social media and that they have changed their minds. Lurkers in a conversation, who do not have their egos invested, hear alternate viewpoints and get influenced. If I have no literal say, why should I be cued to feel invested? You shouldn’t feel invested and you do not have a literal say. You have an opportunity to express your opinion.