where do I even start when it comes to finding self worth beyond appearance? Find a vital absorbing interest that has nothing to do with your looks. Better yet, something that doesn’t depend on your health either. Reading, even fiction, can open your mind up to many new things and many interests. As a bonus, many people find reading relaxing. Many people read in bed before going to bed to help themselves unwind. Book clubs, conversations about the books. I fear my husband will leave me for someone younger and more attractive Your kids are also your husband’s kids. Work out a deal with him to watch the kids for a few hours a week while you go to the gym.