r/RedditForGrownups:

u/TheBodyPolitic1

OP mentioned that his friend yanked the chains of strangers on the Internet. Try better.
u/TheBodyPolitic1

In typical fashion youre conflating one issue with another. I don’t believe we know each other. his friend was just razing random people on Reddit but thats not whats happening For you it is hobby, for him it has become a career. I don’t see the difference beyond that.
u/TheBodyPolitic1

The financial part is easy. Read a introductory book on personal finance, and begin doing those things. Death will always hurt, you have to accept that. You can’t prepare ahead of time and not feel the pain at all. You may be able to take an edge off of it, but you will still feel pain. What you are experiencing is called “anticipatory grief”. A web search will find you books and articles about it. Wishing you the best.
u/TheBodyPolitic1

The best way to get the most happiness is to drop this as soon as you can, and focus on doing things that make you feel good. Nobody cares about social media drama that isn’t their own. Zero disrespect meant.
u/TheBodyPolitic1

That kind of makes you similar to the friend of the OP who you are taking a jab at and who you think the majority of Redditors are. People who get a thrill out of getting a response from people. Nobody likes a hypocrite. No offense intended.
u/TheBodyPolitic1

OR he could be a human being living a human life using the most superior form of intelligence on the planet – the human brain to find a resolution to his problems rather than talking to what is basically a brainless machine. People not in I.T. greatly overestimate what A.I. is capable of. They haven’t snapped out of the spell of the shiny new object/toy yet.
u/TheBodyPolitic1

Friendships drift apart when they no longer have major things in common. It is a natural thing. If you find being around her to be hurtful, stop inviting her out. Make friendships with people in your current phase of life who have more in common with you. Send your old friends a card on the holidays, maybe have a call every few months.
u/TheBodyPolitic1

How long will you be remembered after you die? Probably not very long. That is okay. At the worst I will not be conscious to be aware of it nor feel bad about it.
u/TheBodyPolitic1

Every time I mention this to anyone, I end up getting berated and basically feel like a horrible person It is a horrible thought to people who love their pets. People who admit that they don’t like being parents also get a lot of static when they admit it. there’s nothing in return That is where you fall short. Pets, including cats, give you love and companionship. That you don’t see that will make some people have an opinion of you that you might not like. You have children. Growing up with cats and dogs is very good for children. It teaches them many good things. Many people have fond memories of the cats and dogs from their childhoods. Remind yourself of that when it seems like a pain in the ass. It is making your children’s childhood better, even if it does nothing for you.
u/TheBodyPolitic1

Seriously. LOL. I wonder if either of them live with their parents or pay all of their own bills yet.