r/relationship_advice:

u/zengeezer

If you’re having trouble communicating on this level, you might want to reconsider children.
u/zengeezer

That guy has a problem! I know it’s been 7 years, but it’s not too late for you to dump him.
u/zengeezer

I think it’s really wrong for him to be sharing information about your relationship with his friends. He should let your relationship happen without the participation of others.
u/zengeezer

Your husband sounds like an asshole. Too bad you didn’t know this about him before you married him.
u/zengeezer

As long as the sex is good you might as well stick around with her. It’s a trade-off. You could dump her, but then you would have to replace her with another one.
u/zengeezer

It sounds like you stand a large chance of getting hurt, but it’s your choice if you want to take the chance. And if she does cheat on you again, eventually you will have had enough pain to make a permanent breakup possible. And there’s always the chance she won’t cheat on you again.
u/zengeezer

I see what you’re saying, but even people who have suffered abuse still deserve to have some kind of relationship. People who have sustained a lot of damage are still capable of having a romantic relationship Consider people with birth defects or missing limbs – they can still find romance with the right person.
u/zengeezer

You don’t need to catch her off guard. You don’t need to play games with her. Confront her directly about these things. Use your own language. Approach the subject from your own perspective.
u/zengeezer

It sounds like you deserve better. It sounds like he is manipulating you. Don’t allow that.
u/zengeezer

Remember, you are free to choose the kind of intimacy you allow. You should never feel hesitant to set those boundaries. Even if you have to set them again and again. If your boyfriend doesn’t understand your needs you might need a new boyfriend.