but because he made me feel that Im forever tethered to the dysfunction I grew up in I had dysfunctional parents too, though in a different way. Your ex was mature beyond his years in realizing the family of a potential spouse matters. However, there are loads of people who don’t care at all about who the inlaws will be. Your ex was honest about it and did NOT tell you that you were less of a person. The ball is in your court to forget the slight you feel and find people who don’t care what your parents are like. Remind yourself that you can’t control where you came from. You can control where what you try to make yourself a better person and you are already doing that