Every time I mention this to anyone, I end up getting berated and basically feel like a horrible person It is a horrible thought to people who love their pets. People who admit that they don’t like being parents also get a lot of static when they admit it. there’s nothing in return That is where you fall short. Pets, including cats, give you love and companionship. That you don’t see that will make some people have an opinion of you that you might not like. You have children. Growing up with cats and dogs is very good for children. It teaches them many good things. Many people have fond memories of the cats and dogs from their childhoods. Remind yourself of that when it seems like a pain in the ass. It is making your children’s childhood better, even if it does nothing for you.