I have always been a subnormal male: intellectual, non-violent, not muscle-bound, compassionate, and affectionate. Back in the 1970s there were some women who were attracted to me – but very few. I’d get lucky every several years. Some men don’t have to work for it, but the rest of us need to be creative and intentional. We need to work for it. Consider nature. Some seeds fall on fertile ground – those are the other guys. Some seeds land in the cracks between the paving stones, but they terminate anyway and make plants and flour. Those represent us.