In the words (paraphrasing) of Morgan Freeman’s character from “The Shawshank Redemption”: get busy living, or get busy dying. find what you like about your life figure out what you would still like to experience in your life – and start working toward it. #2 – see what is still within your control to get find a mental map: religion, a philosophy, something get fit, eat healthy, work towards those things accept being middle aged – acceptance isn’t resignation, it is not freaking out when you see reality.