My hair looks exactly like yours, it’s curly, maybe not curly fry curly, but it requires that same amount of care. Mine started looking 100x better when I just started doing what the super curly haired people did.
In subreddit r/malehairadvice
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I really like having my hair long but when I wash, condition, dry then comb it always look mad like this. What am I missing?