NTA. I was a single dad for years. I worked full-time and took care of three children every day. She has one toddler and no job. Is your child severely disabled? If not, she has nothing to complain about. She wants to be seen as a hardworking mother who makes a huge sacrifice and not as a pampered stay at home mom who has an easy life. Her problem is that she is a pampered stay at home mom with an easy life. You two are in a dangerous position. Your wife is spoiled and immature.