r/dating:

u/zengeezer

You’re only 24. Give yourself time. By the time you’re 30 you might be a completely different person. I was.
u/zengeezer

At that stage of dating, where you are meeting for the first time, that’s where the kind of rules get established. Some women want to be told what to wear because it’s important for them to impress the guy more than it is for them to be independent. And that’s okay for them. I would personally NOT tell a woman how to dress for a first date. I’m more into seeing what their natural preferences are, because whatever I want in the future is going to be somewhere within her scope of natural preferences. But that’s just me.
u/zengeezer

The dating apps don’t get you a relationship. They only allow you to interact with other possible candidates. Beyond that you are completely on your own. I have found that the dating apps give me an opportunity to practice my interaction and work on my self-esteem. Everything else you do – real life, meet up, church, volunteering – provides you exactly the same opportunities.
u/zengeezer

Some women feel so little power in their lives that the only way they feel control is to reject men who would be good partners for them.
u/zengeezer

You sound wonderful to me.
u/zengeezer

I can confirm: if you have a choice about being born attractive you should definitely choose attractive. The rest of us …
u/zengeezer

If you’re going to fuck, you need to be comfortable with the word.
u/zengeezer

I like to know in advance if she’s “fluffy” or “BBW”. If so I’ll skip it.
u/zengeezer

No shit! I’m 71.
u/zengeezer

Look for a woman who is less attractive than you. Keep lowering your standards until you find one who thinks you’re hot. You will find one.