r/dating:

u/zengeezer

I’ve heard these complaints before, and it usually turns out to be that you are choosing men for the wrong reasons. A lot of women choose guys just for their looks or other superficial characteristics, and then they just hope these important things will fall into place. Many women choose men who will impress their girlfriends. Don’t worry about your girlfriends. Worry about yourself. If you lower your standards on looks just a little bit you may be surprised how the other areas (cheating, lying, criticizing) will improve.
u/zengeezer

“oh, you made cum so hard”!
u/zengeezer

Does a drunk kiss count as cheating? I don’t think so. What was the relationship with his ex at that time? She’s an ex now. Did the drunken kiss contribute to the end of the relationship? Or, was it a symptom of a bad relationship? I don’t think you should worry too much about it. BUT: In my opinion, everyone is a potential cheater. It just depends on the situation. So don’t worry too much about it.
u/zengeezer

Most of us men have friends. They usually share our interests, and we do things with them. The biggest thing missing is sex. If you can offer men other things – besides sex – then you’ll be way ahead. Things that they value. Most men who have been single for a while do their own laundry, housekeeping, cooking, etc. And if they don’t do those things for themselves they probably don’t value them.
u/zengeezer

The way a person makes you feel is transient. For example: malignant narcissists. The physical attributes are actually more consistent.
u/zengeezer

I wouldn’t make too much of it. It may have been a laugh of surprise. How often does a woman ask for a kiss? (never)
u/zengeezer

Intelligent, liberal, tall, slim, dark brown eyes, slender hands, likes outdoor sex.
u/zengeezer

“hot” is a nice short word
u/zengeezer

It sounds like he would like to be back together with her. It was her that broke it off, not him. You are just the next woman that came along. It all seems like a perfectly normal situation to me.
u/zengeezer

First, women don’t approach men. They pretend that they want to be equal, but they don’t have to so they don’t. Second, you have to be very sexy or very powerful-looking for a woman to take a chance on you. Remember, they are mostly looking for someone they can show off to their girlfriends.