r/dating:

u/zengeezer

I think both men and women tend to have unrealistic expectations. They use dating apps to spread a wide net, thinking that the more contacts they get the more choices they have.
u/zengeezer

It should be, but it isn’t.
u/zengeezer

Whoever planned the event and invited others should pay.
u/zengeezer

You’re not going to like this answer, but if you want better men in your life you have to stop choosing trash men. But you won’t. You will continue to choose trash because you are just not attracted to any other kind of men.
u/zengeezer

I have pondered this question for years. I get phone calls from women friends who go on endlessly about the trash guys they’re with and how badly they get treated … But they never touch the idea of maybe picking better men. Most women never even entertain the thought of choosing better men. We good guys are just trash to them.
u/zengeezer

Receiving a compliment would be such a rare experience that we might not even notice it. And I would tend to distrust it. It would be like you handing me a gold coin for no reason at all.
u/zengeezer

Delusion might be a factor.
u/zengeezer

Sometimes it’s that way. But fortunately it’s not always that way.
u/zengeezer

It sounds like you’re doing better than I am. If you’re getting ghosted it means that somebody has been interacting with you.
u/zengeezer

Intellectually I know that is true, but I sure do miss having sex.