r/AITAH:

u/zengeezer

Yes, you were the asshole. Don’t make a commitment that you aren’t able to fulfill. And, she confessed – what more do you want? If it were not for your commitment she might have kept the secret for years and it might have caused even more trouble in your marriage.
u/zengeezer

Wait a minute – your sister wants her whole family to move in with you, into your one bedroom apartment?
u/zengeezer

It sounds like that guy is kind of a tool. As a relationship matures, both members can start to take each other for granted. If he disrespect you this much, you might want to think about what he gives you that compensates for his disrespect. Maybe nothing.
u/zengeezer

You are in charge of your own vagina. But, if you like rough sex, I guess you’re stuck with the results.
u/zengeezer

Don’t marry him. Dump him. He has revealed himself and he won’t get better.
u/zengeezer

That doesn’t sound like too much to ask. It’s not like she’s asking you to toss her salad, or to pee in your mouth. There are kinks way more kinkier than asking you to call her names.
u/zengeezer

You should be able to do whatever you want with your own body, even if your husband objects. Let him object, and then let him deal with it. There are probably other things you don’t agree about, and you find ways to manage that. So why not this.
u/zengeezer

If you’re giving up the goods for this guy he shouldn’t complain about anything.
u/zengeezer

Maybe if she gives the best head ever! But aside from that I don’t know why you should take her back.
u/zengeezer

A hotel would not kick her out. Adult performers use hotel rooms all the time. And if she’s making big money she should be sharing some of that big money with you. After all, you are being seriously inconvenienced by her doing her business there.