r/dating:

u/zengeezer

The people who tell us to go to the gym are the ones who are already born with good looks.
u/zengeezer

Generally speaking, women won’t text first because they’re afraid to look like they’re interested. They prefer to keep the man off balance. That seems to be the way they have been taught.
u/zengeezer

At least the guy was being honest. Isn’t honesty one of those must-haves?
u/zengeezer

Some of the things you say sound familiar to me. I’ve dealt with much of this myself. Our hominin brains are already designed to interpret facial expressions, cues, and nonverbal signals. We can drive ourselves nuts trying to consciously observe and interpret that stuff ourselves. By the time we can consciously interpret expressions and signals it’s time for us to catch the next bus. Our biological brains can do that better and faster. I recommend you start spending a lot of time surrounded by people, and just watch and listen. NOT to intellectualize what you see in here, but to let your brain become comfortable in that environment. It’s a capability you can develop, just like you can develop biceps at the gym.
u/zengeezer

Be careful with that word cheating. Nobody can cheat on you unless you have an agreement of exclusivity.
u/zengeezer

I don’t understand either. And why do people who already have a relationship need more than one? I’ll settle for one. And after all these years, I’ll settle for half of one.
u/zengeezer

I like Independent women. I’m not threatened by women who make money than me, or who have more education than me. I can even be comfortable when women pay for the date.
u/zengeezer

It doesn’t sound like you’re really doing that badly. After all, you met a guy that you went out with three times. So what if he doesn’t appreciate you … there are more guys out there. Some of them will appreciate you. Imagine if you were in my situation. No dates at all.
u/zengeezer

Before you start dating, give yourself time to recover from the anger and frustration you already feel. If you don’t give yourself that time to heal you will only screw up your dating life and make yourself more miserable.
u/zengeezer

I understand why that would be tedious for you. Well, I guess that’s the downside of being beautiful. If you don’t want men to react to you just for your beauty, try adjusting your profile photos to be less sexy.